dear miss manners: My aging parents travel long distances to see their adult grandchildren perform live lead roles in important productions. My problem is that they definitely fall asleep during (perhaps before) the performance.
Past history guarantees it will either be a quiet nap or a full-blown snoring festival, but it’s pretty certain they won’t see the works or their grandchildren. .
This is not just a “Sunday sermon snooze.” They drive two days each way to get to the show (and plan to stay overnight). It is not caused by the drive. They are just as good at getting some sleep on any local show.
In general, it’s really uncomfortable (for me) to put them to sleep during a live event, and since this is my son’s show, this is going to be even more uncomfortable. Should I sit far enough away from them and ignore their actions, or should I sit close enough to actively stimulate them to wake up and see it in action throughout the show?
kind reader: This is a great outrage for a crime not yet committed. And also to the events that would-be criminals struggle to participate.
But you know your parents better than Miss Manners and are probably investigating whether this is a health problem. If giving them a pot of coffee doesn’t wake them up, it’s a good idea to sit away from them. That way, at least, you can pretend you saw the show without your knowledge.
dear miss manners: Lately I’ve noticed that a lot of people start their sentences and questions with the word “so”.
I think this applies to both “did you know” and “that is”. Am I wrong in finding this very annoying?
kind reader: Still, Miss Manners has noticed that you aren’t too picky about grammar and punctuation. Therefore, she suggests doing her best to hide her irritation on her own level so that it is not directed at her.
dear miss manners: This is about giving your partner food you don’t like in public.
Everyone seems to agree that dining etiquette in a private home is different than dining etiquette in public, whether it’s at a restaurant or dinner at someone else’s home.
I hate raw tomato slices and wedges that are often used in salads. I agree with comedian George Carlin when he said, “It’s not over yet.” This is not an allergy, just a dislike of both the texture and flavor.
You can easily avoid them completely at home. When dining at restaurants, I often simply pass them on to my spouse who happens to love them.
But if you’re sitting next to or across from your spouse as a guest at a dinner party, is it best to push your spouse aside and waste it on your plate? Are we allowed to not waste food handing them over to a spouse who might be drooling at them?
kind reader“Oh, honey, try these tomatoes!” Then give your spouse one or two to “try.”
More than that, Ms. Manners is sure other guests will start to notice they have their own tomatoes too.
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