- I’ve been teaching sex ed to college students for 10 years, and I’ve noticed that many freshmen are unprepared.
- Many college students feel compelled to have sex, but it’s okay to wait.
If you plan to go to college this fall, you probably have a lot on your mind. You may ask, “What if I get lost?” How do I make friends?Go to What if I can’t manage my class? college It’s a big life change in many ways and can be pretty overwhelming.
It is also a time to explore your own sexuality, which can be scary and confusing for some students.
I sex educator For the past decade, he has taught sex education to college students across the country. Almost every student has questions, regardless of where or what I teach. So think of this as your Welcome to Campus sex education guide. Here’s everything you need to know about sex before you hit the dorms.
Having sex is normal – and it’s normal do not have have sex
When you go to college, it may seem like everyone is “doing it.” In reality, everyone has their own timeline. actual, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention 2021 Youth Risk Behavior Survey It was found that 48.4% of high school students reported having had penile-vaginal intercourse, a decline since 1991.
If you want to have sex and you feel ready, that’s great. But if you’re not ready or want to wait, it’s still great. Only you can decide when you are ready for sex.
Your college probably offers free condoms
Most college campuses offer a variety of sexual health services on campus, so take advantage of what’s available.
RA may provide it for free condomhealth centers may offer free STD testing, and emergency contraception Vending machines on campus. Some campus health centers can also write prescriptions for birth control, PrEP, gender reassignment drugs, and STDs.
If your campus doesn’t offer basic sexual health services, research what’s available in the surrounding community. Health departments, mobile disease testing buses, LGBTQ+ health centers and family planning facilities can complement what the campus offers.
Taking care of your sexual health is important, so take the time to research what resources are available on and off campus.
Talking about boundaries and desires doesn’t break the atmosphere
My students always ask me very specific questions, and my answers often boil down to one important thing. That said, if you’re planning on having sex, you have to talk about it.
Talking about what we want (and what we don’t want) doesn’t break the atmosphere.In fact it usually helps set feeling. Instead of walking through a sea of uncertainty hoping you know what to do, talk with your partner about what you want to try, how the situation feels, and so on. what are your boundaries.
But the point here is that talking about sex doesn’t just happen in the bedroom.
Such conversations shouldn’t happen for the first time right before you get naked and have sex. Instead, set aside time to get dressed and chat about boundaries, communication, desires, and sexual health.
why? People may feel pressured to say yes when they are unsure if you only talk about sex right before it. Others may be too vulnerable or too shy to say they need time to think. By laying foundations outside the bedroom, you create a space for quality, compassionate experiences, and more satisfying sex.
Take an interest in yourself and your partner
Most of us have been given a very basic script about sex as we grow up. And it almost always ends with an insert.
The truth is, there is so much more to sex than just ‘curling up’ and ‘going all the way through’, and most people with vaginas can’t even reach orgasm with penetration alone. Even if you stick to the script you are given, you may not get a fulfilling and enjoyable sexual experience.
So be curious. Do you think you should do this new thing because it’s the “next step” or because you really want to try it out? Do you feel the pressure to do it, or do those things really get you excited?
To be honest, these questions are usually not easy to answer. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth asking. Take your time with genuine curiosity about what you and your partner want.
Try to ask follow-up questions instead of making assumptions. Remember, you are allowed to change your mind, adjust your boundaries, and say, “I was wrong about this.”
You will always be learning about yourself and the world around you when it comes to sex. It takes compassion, curiosity and patience. So give yourself enough time to figure it out.