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Dear Abby: My husband and I are both in our 30s. I love him but I’m worried about him because he has a “laissez-faire” attitude with regards to everything, especially health. He had high cholesterol for five years and had done very little for it. He noticed that I had been following him for a year to get a checkup.
To say “concerned” is an understatement. When I asked him why he was so complacent about something so dangerous, he gave me a blank look and said, “I don’t know what you mean.” . Or he says I’m rude. I don’t understand why he isn’t scared. Should I force him to go back to the doctor and deal with this, or sit back and wait for the consequences of ignoring his health to occur? — Wife caring in Iowa
dear wife: try this out. “I love you, but I am very worried about your health. That’s why every year we make an appointment for a health checkup for the two of us, and we want you to come with us.”
There are cookbooks on the subject of heart-healthy eating. It may be time to incorporate some of these guidelines into your menu planning. That might make you less frustrated, and her husband might not even realize you’re helping him.
Dear Abby: Last night, while my husband and I were dining at a popular restaurant, the owner started talking to the guests at the table next to us.
The theme was about bathrooms: what people leave behind and cleaning afterwards. The people he was talking to had finished their dinner by the time we sat down, so the topic didn’t bother them. I stood up and tapped the owner on the shoulder and asked if he could tell me something else as people were eating within earshot. He got angry and said he shouldn’t bother anyone. He then ordered me to return the money and leave.
When I sat down again to finish my meal he came over and threw money on the table and told me to leave immediately and not to come back! Both his husband and I were stunned. We stared at each other for a while then put down our plates and left.
was i wrong? Was I being too sensitive or rude? We were raised not to discuss bodily functions at the dinner table. If I were the owner, I would have apologized and changed the subject. i am very upset about this. If I was wrong, I will send a written apology to the owner. — Overheard in Indiana
Dear all: You have no obligation to apologize to the restaurant owner. The man’s reaction was excessive. Discussing what people have left behind in a toilet that needs cleaning is not a subject that is open to the public in a restaurant dining room. I can’t imagine why you would want to set foot in that establishment again.
Dear Abby: After her brother died, I sent a fruit basket across the street to my neighbor, but she never heard from me. Should she ask if she got it? — Ponder in Pennsylvania
For those contemplating: You took care of sending the food. But give your neighbor a few weeks before asking that question. She may be heartbroken and not yet organized enough to appreciate the care of her people. If the final answer is no, contact the vendor for a refund.
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